Nourishing Hope Through a Positive Relationship with Food

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Food is nourishment for your body, mind, and soul, but what about nourishing hope? Clients who are so ill and reactive to food can barely eat anything. It is one of the most challenging areas of my practice. The very thing that can heal feels like it is harming and causing a source of stress. Amy Bondar, Nutritional Therapist at LMMD finds this heartbreaking and it is her mission to help patients find their greatest joy, health, and vitality with every bite of food.

Food is our medicine. It is the functional medicine foundation for healing, wellness, and vitality. Food has the power to regenerate, restore, rebuild, and re-energize. It connects us to ourselves, to life, to Mother Nature, to farmers, growers, and the planet.  Food and the eating experience also stores memories. For many, these memories are positive and joyous but for others, memories around food are negative and filled with anxiety.

A Negative Relationship with Food

Can physical conditions actually manifest from a negative relationship with food? A client recently shared that she remembers she couldn’t breastfeed because she didn’t like the smell of her mother’s skin. Her mother blamed her for not being a good baby because she wouldn’t latch. She recalls family dinners being scary and stressful because she grew up in an abusive home. Her mother hated cooking, often burned their meals, and forced them to eat everything on their plate before they could leave the table. 

Perhaps this introduction to food is the very reason why this woman has suffered her entire. Some ailments include food allergies, food sensitivities, low immunity, digestive difficulties, and eating anxiety. In fact, she has experienced a complete disconnect to food, cooking, and sadly, nourishment. These early stressful moments around eating may have set the stage for a lifetime of health challenges. When I am is doing an intake with a new client, this information is vitally important and plays a key role in how she would approach reconnecting a client to food.

Positive relationship with food
What is your connection with food?

Reconnecting Positively With Food

Our first connection to food and nourishment is through our mother. It begins via the placenta, then nursing or bottle-feeding, being fed from hand to mouth, in the kitchen, and around the table. It is my belief that there will likely be food and digestive issues if the relationship with the mother is severed or untrusting at the earliest stages of development. There can’t be healing until that relationship and memories are resolved.

I can treat patients using The Demartini Method®. This is a series of scientifically proven questions that neutralize an individual’s emotional charges, balances their mental and physical reactions, open their heart, and clear their mind. It is a reproducible science and procedure enabling individuals to discover the underlying order governing their apparent chaos.

The Body-Mind Connection in Relation to Food

According to German New Medicine, when we look at the mind-body connection, digestive issues are often related to indigestible anger conflicts. These conflicts are usually about a person, situation, or circumstance. 

Anger, stress, fear, and anxiety put the body into the sympathetic state, the fight or flight response. which causes the digestive system to shut down. This impacts the ability to effectively digest, absorb, and assimilate food. These unresolved conflicts can cause physical health issues. The gut has stored unresolved memories from the past. When you are upset or angered by conflict, the gut may also become triggered, which keeps you on a constant track of reactivity to life and food. 

The woman’s example and others who have severe health and eating challenges have often been around the healing block of Nutritionists, Dieticians, Naturopaths, Doctors, Functional Medicine Doctors, and other practitioners. They have tried so many therapeutic diets and supplements. They’ve also had food allergy tests and extensive lab testing to look for the root of these challenges.

Hope Through Healing

Although these all have great intentions, serve specific purposes, and may have helped in some ways, they don’t look past the physical body. The area that is not yet explored is the connection between the possible emotional, mental, and soulful disconnect to nourishment. I focus on when getting to the root of food and health issues. The physical interventions begin to work more effectively once we make these connections and heal these areas.

Hippocrates said, “Before you heal someone, ask him if he’s willing to give up the things that made him sick.” This may mean unhealthy foods, sugar, alcohol and poor lifestyle choices, but it can also mean anger, resentment, stressful memories, and hurtful relationships. These emotions need to be released through the work of The Demartini Method® in order for the body to begin to heal and receive nourishment again.

The Demartini Method® Gives Hope

The Demartini Method® and protocol requires creating a new connection and relationship with food with Dynamic Eating Psychology. It can often mean leaving behind restrictive food lists and going on a “no-diet” diet. It also allows the intuitive body to be awakened and trust what the body would love to eat vs. all the years of messages and beliefs about what it “should” or “shouldn’t” eat. 

I work with challenging clients. This is my approach to helping some of the most difficult cases I have. I truly believe that every BODY deserves nourishment and is capable of being nourished. As a Nutrition Expert practicing for 17 years, a Certified Mind-Body Eating Coach and Eating Psychology Coach, and a Certified Demartini Method® Facilitator, I can help you and those you know who are suffering from the eating experience. Please contact Lynne Murfin MD at reception@lynnemurfinmd.com or (587) 390-0180 for a virtual consult.

Food is the essence of life and nobody should ever feel like they are starving to death because they can’t eat anything. There is hope.

Yours in health & vitality,


Resource. www.drdemartini.com